Interspiritual ministers create legal, unique and deeply personal wedding ceremonies reflecting the spiritual beliefs of the couple and their intentions for their marriage. We explore the qualities that will inform your future relationship and incorporate this within the ceremony to create a spiritually meaningful service to anchor your commitment to each other.
Marriage is the union of two people, committing themselves to each other for the rest of their lives. Together they face whatever life brings, to rejoice at the highs and to share the lows of life.
To create your ceremony we would meet up and explore your shared beliefs, look for music,prayers and readings that reflect you as a couple. We keep in regular contact refining the ceremony until it is exactly what you want.
Marriage is a deep and sacred commitment freely given, witnessed by family and friends and blessed by the Divine.
Marriage is a sacred
commitment made between two people who have made the decision to spend their
lives together. It is an invisible bond forged from their vows and promises to
each other. Marriage is a container woven through life and all the shared events, both
tragic and joyous. Each event deepening their bonds, enhancing
their marriage supporting them through the more challenging times.
ceremony is making a promise:
marriage is living the promise.
promise to the other to not give up on them, to always be there even when the
other may be kicking off or have lost their way. Marriage is a promise to
always see the best in the other, to always see them as they were on the day
you married them. Thus Marriage offers a gift of accountability, your closest
most loved one always wanting you to be the best you can be.
The wedding ceremony is
an energetic exchange between two people; it also celebrates and makes explicit
the change in each family, the merging of two family clans. With family and
friends bearing witness to the promises made and the ensuing changes in the
a belonging, a place in a person that is always `home`.
Religious: Most people would seek a
Minister or Priest from their own tradition however it might be a ceremony
between individuals who follow different religions in which case we weave
together a ceremony respecting and incorporating both religions in keeping with
the beliefs of the couple.
Spiritual: We listen to your individual spiritual beliefs or word view and,
together with you, explore how these merge into your shared belief that will be the basis for your marriage. We then consider any rituals you might want to
include as anchors in the service before we create a ceremony to reflect your
beliefs and wishes.
people do not have formalised views or beliefs and sometimes are unsure in what
they want in their wedding ceremony. In this instance we would work with you in
gaining some clarity around your beliefs before suggesting a variety of models,
readings, prayers, poems, ritual and music instrumental in creating a ceremony
that reflects the merging of individual beliefs into one unified world view.
Rituals: Rituals are the grammar of life.They are the
third part of the trinity of `thought, word and deed`. Ritual anchors words in
action reinforcing their meaning and intent and so play a powerful dynamic role
in a wedding ceremony.
Some rituals to consider
In the sand ritual
the couple each have a small container of different coloured sands which
they pour into one vase together layering, mixing and combining together
their individual colours into a shared colour
of the rings:
A friendship Quaich
is often used to hold the wedding rings of the couple. In this ritual
someone is tasked with taking the Quaich round all the people present who
have been invited to hold their hand over the rings and `bless` the couple’s
marriage. The rings are taken back to the Minister for the final blessing
before the taking of the vows.
The Candle of
Marriage rests on the altar, beside it two taper candles. At the designated
time the taper candles are lit and handed to the couple, these represent
their single lives where they did everything for themselves. They are
invited to reflect on their single life and, when ready, to light the
candle of marriage together. This represents the movement from I, me and
mine, to us, we and ours. They then extinguish the taper candles as their
lives have united in a single flame in the candle of marriage.
handfasting is an ancient
tradition from the times when only the very rich could afford precious
metals for their rings. Ordinary people were tied together by ropes, or
tartans or ribbons as symbols of their union. Often ribbons of different
colours were used, the colours having different meanings the couple would
select which colours best represented their intentions in marriage and be
bound by them
promote unity and represent the uniqueness of their marriage many couples spend some time to discerns the
spiritual qualities they embody.
These are then woven together to create
a motto or saying uniting the couple in a mutual guiding philosophy.
Some examples are:
Semper Fidelis – Always Faithful
Tutum Refugium – A Safe Refuge
Sarsum Cordia – Heart Upwards
I am approved by the Registrar General for Scotland so able to perform legally
binding marriage ceremonies. In Scotland it is the minister that is licensed so
we can perform your ceremony wherever you want it
“Judith married us in July 2016. We
wanted our ceremony to be very personal but weren't quite sure where to
start.After talking lots of time to talk it through with us and discovering
what sort of wedding we wanted, Judith gave us lots of beautiful ideas for the
Judith was amazing, communicating with
us both together and separately, guiding us through the writing of our wedding
vows and our letters that we read out to each other as part of the ceremony.
But, more than that, Judith made us really think about what is important to
each of us in our lives, what we love about each other and why and why we
wanted to make this commitment. This played an important part of shaping our
vows, making it so very meaningful and personal.
We married in a small wood with a large gathering of friends and family and
apparently there wasn't a dry eye in the house!
We are eternally grateful for Judith's help and guidance, her presence and
personality helped make the day a truly spiritual experience.”
I currently work in Ireland. If you are looking for an Interspiritual minister with a similar approach to myself in Scotland , please contact Rev. Andrew Hunter, based in West Lothian, near Edinburgh who works in Stirling, Glasgow and Edinburgh. For more information on Rev Hunter please go to: www.marryinscotland.co.uk